It’s that time again. Time to go back to the infertility clinic so we can make another baby. If you’re not familiar with our story check out our youtube channel. It explains our situation in detail, how long we tried before going through our clinic and what method we chose to conceive our miracle baby. videos
It’s surreal, thinking about how hard it’s been for us to have children. Growing up, infertility was never something that was talked about. If you were to see my family you would understand why. I didn’t realize how many couples are affected by infertility until we went through it. That’s why I started our youtube channel. We were determined to have a baby and I wanted to learn as much as I could about infertility. Once we found out we had male factor infertility, I took to the web. I went on google and youtube to find more information. We had a hard time finding anything on I.U.I’s, so I wanted to share our experience with others that might be going through the same thing.
Research has shown that one in eight couples will struggle with infertility issues. And almost every one of those couples will feel like they’re alone. But because of social media, it’s easier to find support groups. It’s beautiful to see how a community has formed to help support couples dealing with infertility. I’ve connected with a few women on my journey, all because I wanted to share my story. Some have had their miracles such as myself, and others who are still waiting. But we all have one thing in common: our continued support for one another. Go check out thinkbaby.org for other heartwarming stories about other couples dealing with infertility. They talk about how important it is for you (women and men) to love yourself; something I should’ve been doing during the 6 years we’ve been trying to conceive. It encourages others to open up about their experiences and has countless recommendations on ways to cope. You’re already dealing with so much, why not have that extended support from others who know exactly what you’re feeling. And thinkbaby.org is a perfect way to share your story. You never know who you might be helping.
So this is what's been going on... I called a few weeks ago to schedule a consultation with the doctor. Since it’s been three years we have to speak to the doctor about what tests need to be redone in order for them to recommend a plan for us. This is routine, as explained to us anything can change and at the same time nothing can change.
We had our minds made up this time. We wanted to do I.V.F ( In Vitro Fertilization), it seems like everyone I follow or know of who’s tried I.V.F has had success. We felt like our chances of getting pregnant were higher with I.V.F, and we could possibly get multiples or at least multiple embryos that we could freeze and save for the next time I get baby fever. I guess you could say I’m preparing for the future because I’m not going to be at my fertile age for much longer. I’m getting off track. Now I’m talking about how I’ve been feeling lately since my birthday is looming closer.
So we go in and explain to the doctor about what our plan is and we want to know when we can start. We were hoping to get pregnant by June. It took approximately six months for us to conceive our munchkin so we didn’t want to waste anytime. He explains to us that even though I.V.F can be successful, it really depends on the situation. I understand that everyone is different, and even though someone has had success with I.V.F doesn’t mean we will but he made it seem like this wasn’t going to work for us. I was confused. The first time we went and talked to the doctor (different doctor for consultation) she made it seem as if I.V.F was our only option, and that we’d be wasting money if we did an I.U.I. Now this doctor is saying I.V.F would be a waste of money. He showed us a chart explaining that I.V.F has low success rates when dealing with male factor infertility. He pulled up statistics from local hospitals, and it was surprising. Almost all of the trials did not end in a pregnancy. He said that it would be worth trying another I.U.I, that miracles can happen. We know all to well of the miracles he speaks of.
We walked out of our consultation on an optimistic note. We know what we are up against so it isn’t so stressful. We’re going to give it our best shot and if this doesn’t end with another miracle that’s fine, we are perfectly happy just being Emerald’s mommy and daddy, because we both know she’s going to give us hell. To be continued…